Is Child Shyness Normal

Is Child Shyness Normal

Is child shyness normal?

Shyness is often viewed as a problem. Many people believe it is an undesirable trait, one that reflects a poor self-image. Actually, it's only a problem when people perceive it as one. A reserved child who is not taught that something is wrong with her, will be just as confident, happy, and involved as her more outgoing peers.

One woman who was shy as a child had parents who never made her feel bad about her quiet nature. As a result, she's a reserved adult who moves confidently through life. Another woman remembers being chastised for her shyness. Her parents constantly tried to change her: "Why don't you act like the other kids?" "Why are you so quiet?" She still feels self-conscious and uncomfortable, and imagines her mother saying, "Talk! Just go ahead and talk to them!"

The way a child perceives her shyness depends mostly on her parents. If they accept her personality and don't focus on shyness as a problem, she will also be matter-of-fact about her shyness. She'll see herself as able to do and enjoy the same things other children do. But if her parents try to change her or focus too much on her shyness, she'll become self-conscious. It's a fine line between acceptance and feeling badly about having this trait. The more parents concentrate on shyness as a problem, the worse their child will feel about herself.

Shyness is a personality characteristic and should be accepted as one, not as a flaw. Reserved children are often nice, well-behaved, and generous. When they get older, they usually become good listeners and enjoy and respect privacy. They also can enjoy watching other children participate in activities. Although they're shy in some circumstances, they may handle situations well. One five-year-old who wanted to try a